Ok outside of totally inappropriate questions that can be asked in an online chat the next most annoying thing is to ask a question to start up a conversation and then not be available. To say “Hi” or “How are you?” or “What’s up stranger?” and to suddenly be too busy to chat. Get real! I have started noticing there are several people with this bad habit. I can understand if I take 15 minutes to reply you may get busy. But when I respond in less than a couple of minutes. Have we become so ADD to be incapable of waiting 1 minute? Even if I don’t respond to you immediately I do when I’m available. These same people I don’t hear from again for several weeks or more. Am I being punished by not beating some sort of 8 second rule? It has become an annoyance and I may just ignore your @ss in the future. Manners speak volumes about character.
I had a very real deep chat this morning with a friend about this very thing. It inspired me enough to share with you.
***Warning this is not a sexual post***
Essentially we discussed the various type of chatters that come online. Here is the main types according to me. Men you have the lonely, the flirt, the horny, the manipulator, and the predator. The lonely may be married, single, or divorced. I totally get why you are here. Just don’t play the feel sorry for me card or you will be lonely in chat to. This group of guys can be really fun. Best advice to this group is don’t take chat too seriously. Make friends, enjoy, but (using Jedi hand gesture) there is no relationships here. The flirt are usually fun and probably the most successful in chat. They may or may not hook up but they have charisma, energy, and are the the easy ones to chat with. Advice to this group. Enjoy. The horny….aren’t we all? Seems to be a common denominator among those that like to chat. This group is always looking for a good time and depending on who you are and your mad powers of persuasion you fall somewhere on the spectrum of OMG he makes me excitable or I’ll back away slowly and hopefully he doesn’t notice. Yeah don’t be that guy or girl that scares the locals. Having some hot chat and what not is either tasteful or dirty and there is a line and you can cross it real fast. Advice to this group. Getting someone there is the fun don’t force it. The manipulator is all about him. There is no us. He gets his pic he never thanks you because it was his right to have it. He gets off and is gone. We do not forget guys like this. Most manipulators are men. Sorry guys just few women qualify as such dickheads. Yes you do give all guys online a bad rep and the decent ones should kick your ass. Very selfish group of guys and they don’t care about the consequences, it is the thrill of the conquest as this chat thing is a game to them. Advice to this group. Fuck you. Predators are the scary ones as their horny is an addiction and they are looking for their next fix. They are the ones that stalk you, threaten you, try and get behind your wall. If you do meet up they may try and take advantage of you. These peeps want to get right to it. Unlike the manipulators that will play the game to get what they want these guys don’t have time. If you won’t give them a pic they get pushy and usually resort to being abusive. They fully embrace the anonymity of the Internet as they enjoy the shadows but expect you to be in the light. Advice to this group. Go away! Wrapping up on the guys. No one who chats online is truly shy. If a guy says he is shy it’s a red flag. He is trying to disarm your creep sense. Shy comes across as harmless in our psyche. So don’t ever buy the shy routine he is just trying to connect with you and a perfect way of getting you in a PM because the group thing is awkward lol.
Women type of chatters include the ignored, the tease, the social, the queens, and the men. The ignored are lonely and get little attention whether in a relationship or not. Being ignored may not have a lot to do with them as much as circumstantial. Divorced single moms make up the biggest part of this group. They just don’t have a lot of time for much of anything. Much like the men we all want some acceptance and someone to talk to. They are honestly probably the most fun. Advice to this group watch out for manipulators and predators and we love you. The teases are fun, out going, playful and well we love to group chat. Probably one of the more outgoing groups of chatters just rarely deliver. Advice to this group don’t get caught. The social are here for chat and they love to chat. PMing is usually not their thing because they are social and you can’t be social in a PM as it is only one person. That’s no fun. Whatever! The social tend to travel in packs and only PM on their terms which is rare. Advice to this group it’s ok to PM once in awhile. The QUEENS rule the chat airwaves. We all love the queens for they gave us the gift of chat. It’s true! My experience has been the best rooms to chat in are run by the girls. We tend to keep it real and safe. Advice to the queens don’t rule with an iron fist. A good chatter is a gift not a subject. Finally the last category of women…the men. Interesting group and plenty of them out their posing. Advice I really don’t know what to suggest. I think you actually make the men feel dirty and used and some of them probably deserve it.
Bonus group the lurkers. Usually harmless, they just want to be involved and part of something. Sorry in the List we don’t allow lurkers to stay around long. It’s not that your a threat it’s that we are an active room and the price of admission is to be involved.
In the end we are all looking for some good fun, innocent or naughty…a bit of both is my preference. In a virtual world the best advice I can give to everyone is try to be genuine in a place that tends to reward the fake. ❤️
I was chatting with a friend today and we were discussing chat rooms. I asked him what he thought of the List and he offered some great feedback. As a former moderator he definitely has some great insight. He brought up the fact that there is not a lot of women in the room. I mentioned there isn’t a lot of women in most rooms. For what it is worth here is my thoughts. First, one thing men do not understand is women like to chat in a group setting. Men for obvious reasons want to get into a PM. So the ultimate irony is men want more women to chat with but the first chance they get a girl alone they take it. This creates a scarcity of girls. Simple supply and demand sexanomics. High demand, low supply. Second off is no guys want to invite their girl contacts to any room. The scarcity mentality of I have my girls I chat with and I don’t want to expose them to other guys. I’ll try and debunk a few of these paradigms.
First off we really like to chat with guys in the main room. (Second time I have mentioned this in this post. It’s important and true.) If you want to build trust and PM more become active in the main room and your PMs will become plentiful. We are not overly excited to chat with the lurkers. Second invite girls. Girls like active rooms because of the first reason. (Third mention. It must be important.). More active + inviting girls = more fun for everyone. Third don’t worry about hooking up or getting off. Have fun just for the sake of fun. You may find that creating a great place to chat will make all your dreams come true. You would not believe how many guys leave the room and I ask them why. Guess what the response is? Wasting my time I want to hook up. Personally I think most will continue to strike out with that attitude. Sends a pretty powerful message to me of intentions. I even had one guy say to me we PM anyway so I don’t need the room. For those that know me I’ll let you guess how available I have made myself to him. Paradise isn’t made for us, we make paradise. Same holds true for a little chat room like the List or any other. Want something great, make it great. Want more women, invite more women. Chat, have fun, then you can tell someone this is where you want to be. I have done my part in creating a fun place, now I need help in making it the place everyone wants to be. 🙂
Well I finally set up a Kik group. Friends have been encouraging me to for awhile. I can’t believe I actually did it because I’m not really a in charge kind of girl but it’s there. It is called Angie’s List. I know catchy and familiar right? If you want to drop in and chat happy to have you as long as you obey the rules. I don’t have many but a few are necessary. Especially Rule 1 and 4. Have a good day! Rules and Kik Code below. I have unicorns in my group! Real unicorns.
I enjoy chatting. Online chat usually includes the topic of sex which we all love. I may not cyber but sex chat can sometimes be pretty hot. I chat with a lot of people. Most are not regulars as they are looking to hook up or trolling for pics and they quickly lose interest but they all tend to have the same questions. I get that these questions are relevant and exciting. It is just hard to answer them hundreds of times. So in the interest of making things easy here is a new rule. I won’t talk sex with you unless you have read my blog. It is a fast read: I didn’t post everyday and I keep my posts pretty short. Some only a sentence I two. Unless you catch yourself masterbating you might read the whole thing in an hour or two. I understand guys prefer picture books and as you know I didn’t include pics. But I think you wlll find the blog to be quite stimulating if you take the time. Start from the beginning. Like all stories it will make more sense. I am much more inclined to invest my time in you if you have some background. Reading the blog does not mean I’m going to talk sex with you or you have some license to go perv on me I’m just more open to answering questions and discussing my past. As with all things forcing it or making it awkward kind of kills it. So no need to hit the ground in 5th gear and 120 miles an hour :). Keith recommended that last sentence lol. Have a good day some fun posts coming. Almost done.