Have you ever caught yourself always telling your kids no? I think it can become an automatic response if we aren’t careful. Our kids are constantly asking for things and to do things. We almost become conditioned. Is no a response anyone likes? Absolutely not. Kids and even adults can become very good at circumventing a no, even to the point of lying and deceit. There are times that no is the appropriate response, but I am learning that it tends to be better received when there is trust between you as a parent and your child. Unfortunately this trust is difficult to have if we always say no. A few tricks I have learned is if it doesn’t really matter and you don’t have a reason to say no….say yes. Yes brings happiness for sure. Sometimes it may be giving them a choice. What a great way to build good decision making skills by making choices. For example, if they want to have treats at a movie say we can do that or we can go for treats after at Cold Stone. Makimg good decisions is a habit and good habits like most things are developed by practice. A third option is to let them buy in. The way I do this is they ask to go to the movies. Okay I have no reason to say no but I need something done. My response is yes but first I need you to take the dog for a walk or can you do the dishes first? They have a choice, if the refuse they are saying no to themselves. This is a great choice as well as you get some help around the house and they learn sometimes there is a cost to things. I love to say yes as much as possible. I also have picked up a little trick to hold myself to a higher standard as Mom. If I say no I try to offer up a reason. Often it leads to a great discussion. I believe kids learn more and are more accepting of the occasional no, especially accompanied by a valid reason vs because or I said so. Our kids are learning at light speed. Don’t cut corners on the absolute greatest investment in our lives. ❤️
This year to make the Super Bowl a bit more interesting Mandy, Sarah and I convinced our husbands to let us do a challenge. So for each touchdown scored we got to give someone head. First on the list was our own husbands then the guys we already play with but if it was a high scoring game we might get someone new. For me that magic number was 6, Mandy 5, Sarah 8. The guys felt pretty confident in the challenge due to the defenses. They didn’t think any of us world get through the lineup. With only 3 touchdowns I guess they were right and they get to celebrate with us this weekend and collect. I was hoping for at least 6 touchdowns. It would have been really funny.
I love Valentin’s Day! This was the week Keith and I met 20 years ago. I can’t believe it. I mean 20 years….really? I consider myself very lucky. I know love is not always easy to find and often hard to keep. He asked me a few weeks ago to be his Valentine this year. It makes me smile when he does little things like that. I mean it’s not like over the top romantic but it is! I know how busy he is but he makes time for me! I’m really looking forward to this weekend for a variety of reasons but most of all some time with him. I told him yes.